Adaptation to stresses in the early years will reflect in a relatively easy or hard way of managing stress in later life. One way of showing failure in this project…is the eventual falling under some later addictions.
If we can
somehow feel able to be “emotionally safe”, we can activate our vulnerable
state, which helps us learn to maximum capacity and thereby avoid the
entrapment of addictions.
In this video
Dr. Mate draws up the connections between early stress and later feelings of
un-safety, which can and do lead to addictive-type behaviors (and later
addictions) and other signs of being out of control…
When, through
mindfulness activities, we start to feel again the early stresses that we have
once experienced, we can then strive to re-nurture ourselves and in so doing,
learn to master our false or pseudo cravings.
When we get
clear about what true needs were not met, and absolutely feel that loss, our
self-respect will increase and our corresponding need for artificial
substances…will decrease. It’s all based in really getting in touch with
yourself and building trust in your own self-healing powers.
It’s a thing to
behold when the healing begins to work its own astonishing miracle on you!
Please contact
me at: Averayugen@mail.com
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Jasonsays:
Addictions are
hard things to get rid of for sure. If most people were honest with themselves,
we are all addicted to something.
But usually it’s
only the “visual or noticeable” addictions that people get put down for i.e.
smoking, drinking, drugs, sex. And don’t get me wrong all of those in excess
are bad, but heck even oxygen and water in excess can be bad for you too! lol
Many times, it’s
the addictions that are not “noticeable” to most people that can be the most
harmful i.e. shopping, eating, porn, money, status, vanity, the list is long
and distinguished.
Either way, I,
believe when someone has an addiction, they need to ask themselves, what is it
that I am trying to fill? What is the reason behind the addiction?
And like you
said, the more you know yourself the better you are able to recognize when you
start to go down an addictive pathway.
I really
appreciate your website. Many people don’t find help with the above because
they are scared to be judged when they talk to others about it.
By having this
website, it can help folks get on the right track and not feel like they are
all alone.
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Avera Yugensays:
Thank you Jason.
Seems like you appreciate how isolating it is to have an addiction and a desire
to get better and no way to get help respectfully. By that I mean with NO
judgment and no shaming and no insinuation re: character flaws etc…..
I wish more
people could understand that when we act out or grab artificial pacifiers it is
because we still have needs waiting to be met…..
Best to you
always and thanks again!
Avera
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Patricia Senwelosays:
Hi
I think your
site is beautiful just like its name says. Its informative. I also like the
idea of your own testimony. Its touching and you find yourself reading on. It
makes people realise that its possible to quit smoking. I used to drink alcohol
excessively. I stopped in 2006. You are right, decition making is of great
importance. On my case it was a spiritual process. I thank God for it. Thanks
again ad you are offering yourself , continue doing that. Best wishes.
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Avera Yugensays:
Thank you for
that Patricia! Your words are awesome to see and it makes me want to push ahead
and work even harder on this site. It really is very special to me doing this
work. I quit in 1989 and all these years I have wanted to do this project and
have been thinking the whole time about all the related issues Every addiction
involves not getting our real needs met and when we finally see the truth of
that, it becomes MUCH easier to quit. Congratulations on your success in 06 and
may you always continue on the long road to greater and more fulfilling
self-development.
Warmly,
Avera
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Cathysays:
Hi there Avera,
I used to let
stress pulled me down and make me depressed for the longest of time. I
experiment with different methods – sports, food, entertainment – to make me
feel better, but they were only temporary and in fact they made me worse
because like you said, I got addicted to a few things that I think were
non-productive to my life.
Somehow, I
discovered entrepreneurship and it helped me to develop the habit of staying
focus. That changes everything. I am letting positive thoughts in control over
my tumultuous emotion and I am feeling so much better.
Thanks to my
stress factors, I think I have found a new direction in life
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Avera Yugensays:
Hi Cathy,
That is a
terrific remark and it puts a smile on my face! You are the best example of
people turning things around and utilizing their strengths to do it!
The strength
required to overcome addictions is the basic strength of character we all seek
to build as youngsters. We continue to build on it all our lives. There is so
much in life to remind us of the health and balance already there waiting for
us to jump in and enjoy!
Thank you again
for sharing your experience and philosophy ;=)
I am so glad you
are learning how to de-stress and move better with the many surprising bumps
and dips of life!
Avera
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Angelsays:
Dear Avera,
When I am
stressed out, I go for desserts because stressed spelled backwards is desserts.
If something gets me down, I grab for something sweet to make a situation that
was bitter to turn out better. Having too much stress is never a good thing as
it can lead to negative thinking, play out different scenarios of what could
have been, and let someone dive down deep into the heart of depression. To
relieve stress, one must first identify what the problem is that caused one to
feel stressed and think of something they pursue enjoying to numb the stress
out of them and make them feel more calm and relaxed.
At least that is how I try to manage
myself when I feel down for the count.
~Angel
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Avera Yugensays:
Hi Angel,
Don’t forget, it’s normal to want to
self-soothe, but only if the reward doesn’t end up “owning” us. Sugar, like any
other rewarding substance, can also be such a trap.
It’s good you know that and are going
through the work of making our own behavior patterns more clear to yourself.
And thanks again
for caring about my work and responding so engagingly to this post ;=)
Warmly,
Avera
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HolisticJBsays:
as a reformed
smoker i find you site excellent. Very honest, very forthright and also right
elements of humour. I know i needed something like this when i gave up. A 2perday
day habit turned into 40 a day and the giving up was a nightmare.
thank for delivering awesome content
that helps people free themselves of this destructive habit
all luck to you
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Avera Yugensays:
Hi there and
thank you for the great remark Holistic! It is awesome human beings like you I
made this site for, so I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Also I wish
many others who are still struggling to have all the personal support they
need. That is, I am convinced, the key to getting over something like this.
Maybe you too can help some friends who are trying to quit ;=)
Warmly, Avera
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